“Failure is not the opposite of success,
it’s a stepping stone to success.”
I believe things happen with purpose. Even the ugly, awful things. In fact, sometimes it is in those moments of despair and hurt and perceived failure that we are propelled forward to something far better and greater than that for which we are mourning our loss.
Not everyone agrees with me. And I understand why. It’s easier not to believe that. It’s less painful to take our punches and lay there nursing our wounds, struggling to get past them while we are waiting for the next shoe to drop than to mourn fully and step forward with trust in a power greater than ourselves, that something good, something far better than what we ever could have imagined is just around the corner.
It’s a bit of a mind game we have to play with ourselves. Turning around the bad to find the good. But over time when you can look with 20/20 hindsight you can find your proof, if not in your own life, then in the life of someone else.
I caught up with a friend I knew from my early days in the business last week. She’s had a streak of not so great things happen that she was trying to make sense of. Of course I could not help myself but to offer that there was a reason for it all, that at the moment did not particularly look clear. She wasn’t so sure.
I invited her to watch this clip of Arianna Huffington’s acceptance speech at the Glamour Women of the Year Awards last week, her views on failure and a look at what happened when a man wouldn’t marry her.
Do you believe things happen for a reason?
What examples can you cite in your life?
I’m right in my “reason” for greatness now and it is hard to believe – indeed painful when we don’t understand – how this will lead to anything great, but the video clip was very encouraging! I agree with everything that happens for a reason. It is just hurting right now.
I’m sorry to hear you are hurting now. Sometimes the reasons take a while to come clear.